the Lady who lost it
And look what I found:
"The most sublime creation of modern times is the ideal woman of the average man. She is a migratory bird, a sort of movable feast as it were."
This is from an article entitled 'The Ideal Woman', in the Bismarck Tribune of 1882. (Don't ask me how I found it. I have my sources.)
It's funny to think that 120 years ago, people called the times they were living in, 'modern times'. And there was an 'ideal woman', brought on by these modern times. And she was in the continual act of changing. I wonder what the ideal woman of our age is, for the average man, whatever that is. I wonder if I fit that definition in any sense. I might have made a perfect Victorian lady though. I'd sit at home and play the piano, read books, speak many languages, go out for walks in the country and converse with my husband. And sooner or later I'd feel suffocated, a foreigner to my own life, I'd turn inward and produce works of literature not much different from Kate Chopin's or Emily Dickinson's. It's astounding how one can see herself living in another time, another place, and still cannot imagine a way out of her own personality.